THE MAJOR REASON WHY MANY MARRIAGES FAIL

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* Mistaking your partner for another: I have seen marriages dissolve because of some little things one may not think matters. But it does matters. 


There are so many books, records, as well as seminars that talks about living a successful marriage life, how to relate well with your partner, both families etc. But things are not still going on well in some marriages. 


I am not here to condemn all those good books, records and well analyze seminar, but to let you understand that the books you read only serve as a guide to a successful marriage, and does not in any way guarantee a peaceful marriage. 


How to best understand your partner is to know that what you read or listen to has nothing to do with him or her. It is only an assumption that your partner is likely to behave like this or that. And if he or she does that, you may do this or that. "An assumption is likely to be false". 


What am I saying in essence? 

Stop capitalizing by some other person's experience, read your partner and then write a book about him or her. 

Those who wrote those books you read and rely on did it base on the experience they had with their partner in their own marriage. For God sake, your partner can never be like theirs neither will your marriage be like theirs. 


Read books, attend marriage seminar, listen to some good records about marriage when preparing for marriage, but when in marriage, "read your partner and you will never miss it out."

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